
Last Night All3Sports Sponsored a talk by triathlon coach and author
Gordo Byrn. Many local triathletes, in search of wisdom and knowledge showed up for the discussion. It was a packed house. Lee, Kristy, Andy, Alberto and myself were there as well as Coach Carole and other local notables.
True to his introduction, Gordo was a captivating speaker -- down-to-earth, knowledgable, witty, zen-like and fiesty to boot. He discussed his life as Venture Capitalist, his travels to various countries as well as his hiking trips up such notable places as Kilamanjaro. He spoke openly of the humble beginnings which set him on the path to becoming an elite triathlete -- his conversion to Ultraman World Champion and the challenge of Epic Camp.
It was comforting to to recognize that much of his sage advise was already well-worn and familiar, having been taught to us by our own wise coach Carole. It was validating to hear him speak of the challenges of training while being a working athlete. I especially felt grateful for his confession that it was difficult for him to train more than 20 hours consistently while working w/o things in his life starting to give and slip. He focussed on consistency, nutrition, and rest...and the need to learn to calm the "noise" that clutters our mind and our lives.
Important too, was his alarming recognition that few people ever challenge themselves enough to know what they are fully capable of becoming, as an athlete and a person...
He has a remarkable website with much great information. Two Posts really struck me
Conversation on Fear http://www.byrn.org/write/convfear.htm and
Fear and Love http://www.byrn.org/write/lovefear.htm and its link to personal acceptance and happiness.
Some particular passages I liked:
(1) Courage is admitting my fears. Once they are spoken of, their powers over me diminish or leave. Once they are identified and action is taken they are often rendered meaningless and become even humorous. But it takes some courage for me to come to grips with my fears...Sometimes we meet people with an aura of peace and calm..... compassion and serenity. They seem to have some cosmic kindness and a mature attitude
(2) Being able to see things is a gift but always remember that everything we see is an illusion. There is no reality. All situations are constantly changing, the world is a dynamic place. You may have an insight into another's situation (pain, loss, life) but that doesn't mean that you can "fix" anything. In fact, that insight may be given to you for YOUR benefit not the other party's. There are times to learn from observing and there are times to share those observations
(3) What I have been thinking about is a deep spiritual love. Accepting and not grasping. An appreciative love -- full of an appreciation of the magnificence of creation (be it trees, dogs, people, whatever). That seems a lot healthier and a lot less risky to me. It can also be very satisfying, once you get your head around the concept.
(4) OK, so the theory is fine and dandy but how do you implement it? Total acceptance. Totally accept the other, totally accept yourself and totally accept the current situation. This doesn't mean that you jettison your personal standards -- in fact, I think the highest ethical standards are essential for spiritual love. For me, acceptance does not imply complacency or tacit agreement. For me, acceptance implies non-resistance, most importantly non-resistance to our own hearts. When we listen to our hearts, we will find the right way to go. Listen inwards, and respect outwards. Non-resistance combined with a deep respect for others (that's where the ethics comes in). If the person is not worthy of respect then I guess you can lead by example or move on... My angers, fears, and jealousies all seem to stem from internal resistance. As I lower (and some day eliminate) my resistance to the present, everything gets so much easier